I've noticed in my life that we all want to be loved, understood and cared about. But often what we get, instead, is a feeling of being misunderstood, rejected and betrayed.
In society we're taught it's not OK to feel pain or hurt. Men, especially, feel they're not strong if they feel pain or hurt. It's crucial that we allow ourselves to feel those vulnerable feelings, because we can't heal them unless we're willing to feel them.
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If we observe, we will noticed many forms of betrayal, that we might face in our lives. Like breaking the commitment of any type, betrayal in friendship, infidelity.
Another kind of betrayal is withholding or withdrawing, so we don't really share our feelings and what's going on inside of us. Our feelings, our hopes, our fears, our longings, our hurts, and even little misunderstandings & complains, we keep them secret from the other person. That creates distance in any relationship.
We need to learn how to grieve the hurt of betrayal, so we don't carry forward those hurts, close down and become bitter. That's the real tragedy of betrayal, when people close down and become bitter towards life. We need to learn how to grieve the hurt & compose our self so we can open our hearts again to another possibility, another relationship. For a healthy relationship we have to create a climate of trust, love, care & honor, so we minimize the prospect of betrayal.
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